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  • Divorce not the only option for marriage of your dreams

    Marriage Counseling Dallas:  Melody Brooke, MA, LPC, LMFT

    Divorce isn't the only option to have the marriage of your dreams!

    Are you experiencing more distance with your partner?


    Are you having more fights than you used to have?


    Are you not making love as often?


    Are you thinking about stepping out? Maybe you're worried that your partner is stepping out.


    I have some good news. Contrary to a lot of traditional viewpoints, you don't have to get a divorce to have the marriage of your dreams. 


    Sometimes the thing that keeps people from coming in to get couples counseling is fear of losing control. The reality is that insistence uncontrolled is addiction to the fantasy. We can't control anything. We certainly can't control other people and most of the times we can't even control ourselves. 


    When you get into a fight with your partner, isn't there always an element of blame? You feel blamed. You feel like you're blaming your partner. What I've learned is that blame actually is counterproductive to working through any kind of a problem.


    In my marriage counseling practice, I use a model that I've developed called cycles of the heart, and it starts with your brain. This is the model of your brain. The old brain which is the brain stem and then the mid brain which is the center of your brain and then the new brain that we think of as our brain is the grey matter that has our rational, cognitive abilities


    The old brain is our survival reflex and the mid brain is your emotional centers of your brain. When we're under any kind of threat, instantaneously, that old brain gets kicked into gear and our new brain goes away. 


    We end up saying things we don't really mean and get thrown into patterns that are very destructive. What I do is I teach you a way to come out of that and move into the way of being compassionate with each other.


  • Military Families Learn Kids Serve Too

    Camp C.O.P.E
    . provides military families with an unforgettableweekend at camp.

    Camp C.O.P.E. gives these children hope and patience and courage. Camp C.O.P.E  lets them be just kids- again!

    Through therapeutic interventions, certified therapists teach children and their families how to cope with their changed world due to deployment, injury or loss of a family member as a result of their service in our country’s military. Camp C.O.P.E. provides weekend camps across the country free of charge to children and families of military personnel. This is done through generous donations and grants from individuals and our corporate partners. Camp C.O.P.E was established in 2004 and is classified as a non-profit 501c (3) organization.

    Video transcript

    (excerpts below)

    Being a military family is hard

    Elizabeth Reep... one thing that I'm most proud of is being the daughter of a, a veteran, a spouse of a wounded warrior and... a military parent.... it's tough. Being a military family is hard. 

    Renee Foster  He was deployed to one of the most dangerous areas. He was attached to 82nd Airborne.

    John Foster  My company lost 11 soldiers that deployment, all killed in action, and I had my hands on a great deal of them.

    Renee husband was injured from an IED explosion that shattered his, uh, lower back and he was having left leg pain. He could barely walk...

    John FosterI didn't exactly know how the war had affected me, but it definitely had...

    Renee Foster ...The man that came home was not the man I married...

    John Foster...I was overly emotional, uh, to any kind of conflict, any kind of corrective criticism... It didn't matter if it was the grocery attendant, my son's school teacher, my wife, even my son...

    Renee Foster  He was just shut off from the world, no empathy, no sympathy... wasn't involved; didn't talk to me for days.

    John Foster... I was super paranoid, um, constantly checking the locks of the doors, the windows, calling the police for people that I thought were trying to harm me or my family...

    Renee son was full of fear. My son was having nightmares; my son wasn't sleeping. My son would run and hide when we would argue and just scream...

    Elizabeth's the aftermath, the reintegration